I wrote this post a while ago, long before Coronavirus kicked in, but it’s been sitting in my drafts until now, when suddenly it seemed more relevant than ever to post it.
More than a few friends recently have talked about their stress and anxiety, with levels ranging from I can’t get dressed in the morning without crying, to I feel so overwhelmed at work I can’t sleep properly at night.
So I thought I’d write a few words about a very simple breathing exercise that’s not only helped me drift off more peacefully at night, but has been scientifically proven to help increase relaxation and reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety.
How does it work? Deep, slow and controlled breathing has been shown to activate the body’s relaxation response, leading to changes in the autonomic, parasympathetic and central nervous system.
I’ve been doing versions of this simple breathwork exercise almost every night for many years as it’s so unbelievably simple but incredibly effective. Once you build a habit, you won’t let this one go.
The best thing is, you don’t need to carve out any extra time in the day to do it – you just do it lying in bed when you’re ready to sleep, so there’s no excuses for not having time. There’s literally nothing else to do apart from try to relax into sleep.
It’s typically the time when thoughts start racing and and stress potentially building, so have this breathing exercise ready in times of need.
Ready? It’s super simple…
- Start by gently placing the hands on the lower abdomen to help connect with your breath.
- You might feel your hands rising and falling with each inhalation and exhalation.
- Breathe in and out through the nose (mouth gently closed) for a few counts of breath.
- Start to follow each breath as it moves in and out of the body, wherever it might be – it could be in your belly, throat, chest or elsewhere.
- After following your breath for a few rounds, start counting your in-breath.
- Breath in: one, two, three
- Breathe out: one, two, three
- After a few rounds you want to start making your out-breath longer than your in breath. Do this by consciously but gently slowing down each exhalation.
So the breathwork pattern will look like:
- Breath in: one, two, three (an in-breath comfortable for you)
- Breath out: one, two, three, four, five
Regardless of how long your inhalation is, your can promote the relaxation response by slowing down and making the exhalation longer.
Repeat this cycle of counting a longer out-breath to in-breath four of five times. Sometimes I keep doing this until I physically feel my body untangle and unwind and quite often I’m asleep before I reach ten rounds.
An extra note…
Once you get used to extending the exhalation, you can start experimenting with a gentle hold in between the inhalation and exhalation. This is more like an internal pause rather than a forced hold of breath. It should be totally effortless.
This type of breathing workout helps to slow down your heart rate which reduces the effects of stress on the body. As a result your thoughts may calm and eventually bring the body into a quiet stillness.
Once the physical body settles, the mind follows.
Do this breath exercise whenever you feel you’re getting tense, stressed or locked in a whirl of thoughts-on-loop. Not just in bed, but any time.
A word on meditation…
If you’ve tried meditation or keen to try it but not sure where to start, start here, with the breath.
Learn how to find the breath, follow it, listen to it and watch it. This is a form of meditation in itself as there is just one point of focus, the breath. So whenever your mind begins to wander, you just bring it back to the breath.
This is one of the simplest ways to start meditating as the breath is a physical, tangible, active point of focus. Listening and watching the breath is also a great tool if you are easily distracted or find sitting in silence (trying to meditate!) too challenging.
So give it a go. Commit to just a few minutes of deep, controlled breathing every night for a few days or a week and see how it feels.